Doing The same Sin over and over again | Nouman Ali Khan

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asker said that “a person who is praying five times a day and he is fasting in the month of ramadan and he is performing umrah and prayin tahajjud also but when he is alone he is doing the bad deeds which is forbidden in islam and after that he released those mistakes and he is asking forgiveness to allah and he is crying to allah and again two three days he is not doing the same bad dates and he is engaged with the good deeds and again it is repeating to

bad deeds and again asking forgiveness it is going like this so why this fluctuation in his life so how to improve and increase this taqwa” Nouman Ali Khan said that “thank you thank you so much for your question because this question is for millions of people it’s not just for one person and thank you for asking that question very intelligent question let me just try to address this i’ve given a lot of talks about this issue the cycle of sin and the cycle of even good people you know they’re praying they’re reciting quran they’re even doing umrah and ebadat

but at the same time they can’t get away from certain evil practices in their alone time there are two parts of this problem one of those parts is spiritual and the other part is psychological and we have to address both of those parts let me start with the psychological only because most of the time when we have these discussions we don’t address the psychological side we only address the spiritual side so i’ll try to address the psychological side of this a little bit you have to understand that there are in psychology there are triggers in other words there are certain situations that make your mind these certain release certain chemicals in your brain and you they make you want to do some things in certain settings there are triggers so for example for a young man i’ll give a crude example a young man is watching an action movie and he’s watching the movie and he sees a beautiful woman and as soon as he sees that one scene his mind gets triggered and and he pauses the movie and watches something far worse and he gets into the habit of doing that it wasn’t the movie itself it was just that one thing that triggered it or for some people when they go back into their apartment or in their room when they’re alone by themselves bad things happen when they’re by themselves when they’re at the masjid obviously it doesn’t happen when they’re with their friends it doesn’t happen when they’re on their own it happens so the first bit of advice for everyone here and myself is you have to identify when does the sin happen when i’m by myself where am i when it happens what times does it happen

and if you can identify the problem times and the problem places and the problem situations you have to try to change those situations if you’re a young man and you have a problem with you know the kinds of things that are available on the internet and you’re looking at those kinds of things for example put your laptop put your mobile device put it in the kitchen

so that your mother’s walking by your dad’s walking by and the mobile device don’t put it in your room and parents put their stuff in a visible place in the house these screens are destroying our kids

seriously

then the other thing the spiritual side of this problem it is normal for a human being to make tauba to allah and then go back and do the sin again because we are the khattaoon means hyperbolized state what that means in simple english is the one who repeats mistakes over and over and over again like a chabaz makes bread over and over again you know

you know kahtta makes mistakes over and over again so that will happen it’s inevitable that some sin will occur over and over again however however however if in the back of your mind the moment you made taubah you are already thinking about three weeks from now i’m going to be doing this again anyway if you’re thinking that in the back of your head

then

it’s not for people who continually do evil deeds they’ve already accepted it allah says

they don’t insist on what they did in other words you have to make a serious verbalized conscious commitment this has to stop

not that one time you cry and you you turn to allah i’m so sorry i can’t believe i did this and you don’t do it you know you have to figure out a way to get away from this entirely a serious commitment to yourself and if you can’t do it on your own seek the help of friends seek the help of people you trust i know it’s embarrassing sometimes but we all need counsel and help sometimes and when you realize that it’s been going on for years and you haven’t been able to get out of it it is time to seek someone else’s help which is why in the ummah today psychological and spiritual counseling is so important so many young people are in need of counseling and families are in need of counseling that is one of the greatest priorities of this ummah because that will be a vehicle by which peace will be delivered “